How I manage my anger issue, Written by Tasmiah Islam Raisa, ID: 23126076, Date: August 15, 2023
I did not eat for 3 days in a row due to my anger. At the very beginning of my adolescence, I suddenly became an ill-tempered person. Some silly matters also used to make me angry. I had no control over my anger, which is now I am aware of the reason as a biology student. For the better understanding, I am mentioning some scientific logics here. In the case of not only me but also all teenagers, the reason behind this change is the secretion of many hormones in the body. Adolescence is a period when one is neither a child nor an adult. An adolescent goes through a huge change, both physically and mentally. During this period, the pituitary gland in our brain starts generating certain types of hormones, which regulate our bodily growth, mood as well as menstrual cycle and so on. Nowadays, a common term called "mood swing”; caused by hormonal change. Based on some studies, hormones such as testosterone, estrogen and steroids are responsible for influencing one's mood (Leary, 2020). Surrounding environment also affect one's mood. At this time, teenagers do not know how to react and they do not even know why they are reacting over little things. In my case, I also did not know how to react or how to control my anger. Today, I am going to share my personal experience with you all through this blog.
The consequences due to my anger:
As a child, I was very quiet; everyone’s favorite as well as obedient. Around 2012, I suddenly became a tiny angry bird, loud and stubborn. I often misbehaved with everyone without realizing it. I have yelled at my mother in front of my family members during the morning of Eid due to not letting me do my work. I even reacted when there was nothing to argue about and for that, I feel embarrassed now. I remember I have not taken any food for 3 days in a row I didn't talk to my family for 2 days because of anger because my mother took my phone away from me. Yes, I know, it sounds horrible but that time it was an exposure of my anger. I had a bad habit too which is I used to lock myself in a room when I got angry. There was a time when I could not stand anyone. Even the presence of anyone bothered me. Sometimes, I used to hide myself so that no one could find me. I didn't talk to my family for 2 days because of anger.
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Period of realization:
One day, I yelled at my mother due to a silly matter in front of one of my cousins. She asked me why I was yelling at my mother. Thus, I was making my mother feel bad. At that time, I did not care what she said but somehow her words planted a seed of realization in me. After yelling or misbehaving with a person, somewhere my actions made me feel guilty but never had the guts to say sorry to him/her. Thus, I started to realize that what I was doing was not right. My actions were not only making my people worried but also hurting myself as well. However, I could not get rid of my anger. Therefore, one day I decided to take an attempt to deal with my anger by using some steps and changing a few habits.
Steps of anger management:
At the time of anger-
Keep myself quiet until I cool down.
Carefully choose words before speaking.
Distract my mind by moving all the focus on other things.
Pray 2-rakat nafal salah.
Avoid locking myself in a room.
Listen to the recitation of Surah.
Do care about the feelings of others.
Do meditation.
Go for a walk and be close to nature.
Play with pets.
Read storybooks.
Try to be nice to people.
Take a nap.
Write a diary.
Keep patience.
Talk to a person.
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